The link is three months old, but there’s something I want to point out in this post from Seth Godin.
The content has nothing to do with what I’m talking about here – it just has some correct grammar I want to dismantle.
When someone moves on, when she walks away or even badmouths you or your work, it’s not personal about you. It’s personal about her. Her agenda, her decisions, her story.
I would (and do) write such sentences like this:
When someone moves on, when they walk away or even badmouth you or your work, it’s not personal about you. It’s personal about them. Their agenda, their decisions, their story.
The first version just doesn’t sound right to me in any way. It paints a picture that the subject is female (or male, if the writer chooses to make it such) and can therefore put a picture in the reader’s head that may not apply.
Like if you’re reading that in order to learn how to not be affected by criticism, and your critic is male, in some small way, you’re taken out of the scenario and its application to you.
I know it has to do with plurals and being upset and such, but it’s never seemed correct to me, and I never do it.
Am I crazy.